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There’s just something about a man in a position of power. It’s something I’ve always been attracted to in various situations. Now, it’s not necessarily money, because to be honest Bill Gates does nothing for me, but it’s the confidence, or maybe even arrogance, required for someone to hold a position that demands attention. These men have caught my eye throughout my entire life.

I would say it started from a young age. I plastered my walls with pictures of anyone on the cover of Bop or Tiger Beat. These cute young guys were in the spotlight, and usually had swarms of other girls in school fighting over which one was “their boyfriend”. Some girls would go for the quirky actor, or the drummer in the band, just to prove they were different, but not me. I wanted the All-American heartthrob.

In high school, it was always the quarterback of the football team. Is there a rule somewhere that states that you have to be attractive to try out for this position? To this day, my picture of my ideal man is Lance Harbor (played by Paul Walker) in Varsity Blues. The athletic build definitely has something to do about it, combined with the competitive spirit, and their earnest visibility as the leader of a team. So, it should come as no surprise that I went to prom with the quarterback of our football team.

As I got older, and my social setting changed, I became fascinated by bartenders. When I turned twenty-one and found myself surrounded by a crowd of drunken idiots (myself included) I started to notice the power held by the men in charge of the liquor. They seemed to be undoubtedly more attractive, charismatic enough to have obtained the position, and could control where your next drink came from, or even whether you could be kicked out of their establishment. Now, this may not be a highly esteemed position in society, but when it comes down to the domain of a night on the town, there is almost no one who doesn’t have to, at some point, get the attention of or answer to this man. They are also generally terrible dating prospects.

I was reminded of the third category in this topic last night- performers. I attended a charity gala where a cute, young Scottish performer was the entertainment. Now, walking down the street, I probably wouldn’t have given this guy or his band members much of a second glance, but the second you put them onstage, exuding charisma and captivating an audience, my heart started to race, and they become infinitely more attractive.

Now, there are two problems with this fascination. First, these guys often generate lots of competition from other women vying for their attention. Secondly, the character they portray in these positions of power is not always synonymous with their personality in real life. It can be disappointing if the quarterback of the football time spends his free time playing video games, or the bartender has no further career ambitions. I may be able to take from my observations that I’m attracted to confident men, but when I expect them to fall perfectly into a category that I’ve defined for them is when I get into trouble.

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