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I ended my last entry wishing for a new way to meet men, and was instantly bombarded with an answer to my call. One of the most enthusiastic resources a single girl can use is a married woman. After hearing I was looking to date, my friend Laura became more adamant about finding me the right man than even I am!

I’m discovered an interesting phenomenon as Laura constantly asks friends if they know anyone available to set me up with. Apparently, I’ve gotten to the age where men are less likely to be unwilling to commit and more likely to be already taken. It seems that the moment a man decides he’s ready to settle down, women are lined up to snatch them up before they change their minds.

As a result, I ended up going out to dinner in Long Island on Saturday night with Laura and a group of girlfriends who are all either married with children or in committed long term relationships. They were all so excited to have a night out of the house that they took turns buying rounds of shots for the table. It didn’t take long before we became the rowdy table of ladies in the corner.

On a trip to the restroom, one of the women started chatting with a group of guys sitting at the bar. She called us over after a few minutes, and proceeded with introductions. Similar to our group of friends, most of the guys were married, but there was one bachelor, “Joe”, tagging along. Both groups made their intentions obviously clear, prefacing our names with, “He/She’s single, and a great catch”.

We didn’t have anything in common, except maybe a group of friends desperate to pawn us off on each other, so after a minute of idle chatter we turned back to the group. Within minutes one of the guys turned to me and asked, not so subtly, “Hey, have you met my friend Joe?” I responded by informing him that forcing two people to talk was probably not the best way to ensure a successful match. You have to let the conversation flow naturally.

As much as I appreciate the help, the enthusiasm of finding someone perfect can cloud their judgment. My requirements are slightly more extensive than, “you’re single, he’s single, you’re perfect together!” I had a much more interesting conversation with one of Joe’s happily married friends. Although it may be frustrating to find that the most compatible member of a group is unavailable (why are these married men making the bar scene even more difficult to navigate, anyway?!), I walked away from the night on a positive note. The kind of guy I’m looking for does exist, and I just have to find him at the right time.

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