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“Far too many people are trying to find the right person instead of trying to be the right person”

I came across this quote at just the right time. I was a little stressed that I haven’t been able to pay any attention to dating lately. For one thing, this column isn’t too exciting if I just go to work, to the gym, and home to watch TV. Plus, I know that if you want anything you have to work at it, right?

Wrong! There really seems to be something to the theory of finding things when you stop looking for them. In the past week, while I’ve been busy visiting my girls, flying across the country, and catching up on neglected work, I got an email from a cute Australian boy I had a vacation fling with, a voice mail from my high school boyfriend asking why I didn’t call him when I was in town, and a text message from a guy I haven’t talked to in years!

I also love the tone of the quote. You’re not just waiting around for someone, you’re actively making yourself a better catch, which is part of finding the right person. Every Cosmo survey ever written says a guy wants a girl with her own hobbies.

So, as much as I’d like to call my blind date from Florida (who I’ve had at least one conversation with, when I didn’t have time to have a decent conversation, but wanted to assure him not to take it as a blow off!) or chat up the cutest guy at one of my local bars, I’m spending the week, or at least tonight, getting my own life in order.

So, please accept my apologies for a lack of steamy content. I’ll try to talk my girlfriends into living it up so we can all live vicariously through them. I’ll be busy unpacking the bags that are still sitting on the floor of my apartment, and starting a list of people to send Christmas cards to. And, if fate will have it, running into my next subject at the grocery store or at the cash machine!

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