ExposedNYC

Okay, so you know how they say a picture is worth a thousand words? Well, I saw a picture of my “long distance blind date” from Florida, and he’s so not the picture I had in my head. My friend Laura showed me a picture of this Italian man with a Brooklyn accent, and it turns out he’s in khakis up to his waist with a porn star moustache. And she told me he was attractive!

So, I’m trying to figure out how to politely break it to her that I won’t be pursuing him. Not that it was all that realistic, anyway, (he lives in Florida?!) but when I had just heard his voice, and had a really good conversation, I held onto a glimmer of hope. If I tell her I don’t like his picture, I’m insulting one of her good friends, not to mention that I look shallow in the process.

And, of course, I have to keep in mind that pictures can be misleading. I once went out with a guy I met on Match.com (yes, my friends convinced me to try it), who had obviously used the best picture EVER taken of him as his profile, not to mention possibly some professional lighting and retouching. I honestly didn’t recognize him when we met.

We all know photographs can capture the best and worst in ourselves. The best usually end up framed in our houses, and the worst get shoved into a box or drawer (or deleted from your computer, with the advent of the digital age). Would I want to be judged by any picture someone had laying around the house of me?

Looks may not be everything, but they do make a difference. I saved a message from him on my voice mail that gave me goose bumps the first time I played it, and now it just kinda gives me the creeps.

I’m trying to talk myself out of being so judgmental. I’ve dated guys before who my friends were shocked that I was attracted to, and their personalities made them more attractive every day. Long distance just takes such an effort that I need a little more inspiration to get enthused.

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