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How much discussion of a relationship is too much? I may not be in the most reasonable position to discuss this topic, since I post my dating life for the world to read, but it’s definitely an interesting question.

My girlfriend Kate called me today because her boyfriend asked her whether she discusses their sex life with the girls. She casually avoided the question, until finally admitting that yes, she does bounce some relationship questions off of the girls. That’s what they’re there for.

The funny thing is, I don’t actually know much about their sex life. I know when she’s been scared things were moving too quickly, or when he did something amazingly sweet, but when it comes to intimate physical details, she’s not one to dish for the sake of gossip.

How much to tell is a tough subject among couples. When you’re casually dating someone, every detail seems acceptable as public knowledge. For guys it’s known as “locker room talk” and for girls, it becomes a Sex and the City brunch.

When a couple truly gets to know each other, when they let their guard down more than with any other person, it can be scary to know that their confessions could end up dissected over coffee. At the same time, one of the best ways for people to work through relationships is to discuss them with people we know and trust. It keeps us from feeling isolated.

I guess the only answer is a careful line to tread upon. Your significant other may be waiting at the end of such a tightrope urging you forward, but your friends are usually the net waiting below to catch you. While every relationship has their secrets, most guys can rest safe knowing that if she’s still with you, she’s probably pretty satisfied, and who wouldn’t want the world to know that?

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