Single life is not so bad
If you start to get down on being single, I have one suggestion. Go see Children of Men. This movie absolutely blew my mind. The ideas of how infertility and the imminent end of the world would change our life are scary thoughts.
This movie seriously affected me. I literally left the theater, was invited to grab dinner with a group of friends, and declined to go home and be alone. I didn’t realize how deeply I was touched until I broke into tears taking off my make-up.
We live in an insane time. The film is set twenty years in the future, and portrays how scary life will be if we continue to follow all of the worst paths that have already been set in motion. It also emphasizes the value of having children’s influence in our world.
I cannot emphasize enough how much compassion needs to be a part of our day to day lives. Forgive me for preaching, but I don’t think most of us (myself included) appreciate how lucky we are.
On the way to the movie I walked past a homeless man on my block. Now, this is an AT LEAST daily occurrence, but there was something different. As one of the first true cold winter nights, I was struck when he lifted his hands to his mouth to warm them with his breath. I was so touched that I turned around, took off my own gloves and gave them to him, no questions asked, and walked away.
I can’t tell you how happy I was walking the rest of the way to the movie. Sure, I kept my hands in my pockets the entire way, but I had touched a distressed life, and that warmed me from the inside out.
I know, I know, this is supposed to be a dating column, but I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. “Too many people are trying to find the right person instead of be the right person.” A story of compassion and warmth in a man trumps so many superficial attributes.