ExposedNYC

I’m definitely not against text messages. In fact, in many situations I prefer them. I’m all about efficiency and respect the convenience in planning where to meet someone, communicating in a meeting or library, or writing my draft in the subway to send when I emerge to the wonderful land of cell service.

I don’t think it’s an appropriate method for a first phone call. A Cute Guy I met recently began texting me during the day, while we were both working. The intentions were nice, that I crossed his mind, but it definitely didn’t allow me to get to know him, and he didn’t bring up making plans.

What becomes even worse is texts that require absolutely zero thought. I’ve been getting texts from Cash lately (apparently just climbed back up from the ledge he’s been hanging onto by his fingertips since falling off the face of the Earth months ago), and the extent of effort consists of, “morning” or “whats up”- verbatim. I’m choosing to ignore these, although that hasn’t stopped them from continuing.

My girlfriend Doll and I discussed this developing phenomenon, and discovered that it generally comes from guys who treat you as a low priority. They don’t want to make the effort of calling, or making plans, they just want to test the waters and see if they can still get a response. From there they are generally too busy to talk, but are validated by any reply.

What’s the point?! Texts are the perfect solution to avoiding small talk, and people are reverting to it in written form? Get to your point, already. I was sorely disappointed when Cute Guy sent me a message last night consisting of three letters, “hey”.

I was on my way out to dinner at the time, and was a little sad that this confident, intelligent man that I’d had a fantastic conversation with the first night made me feel like an after thought. He redeemed himself, though, because by the time I left dinner, he had also left me a voice mail saying, “Hey it’s your text buddy. Give me a call back when you get a chance.”

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