ExposedNYC

There is nothing I hate more than being caught in between two friends who don’t get along. Normally, when I go home for a visit all feuds and feelings are put aside and all of my favorite girlfriends go out together. I thought this last trip was going to be the same way, but I was absolutely wrong.

Kate and Jodie, two of my favorite people are not the best of friends, but for my sake are always civil to each other. I was actually really impressed that Kate made a point of inviting Jodie out for her birthday celebration, knowing that her close friends would be there. But then there’s always a guy involved.

Jodie has this ongoing, undefined relationship with Troy, who used to be one of Kate’s best friends. For a number of reasons, Kate and Troy no longer even talk to each other. So after the girls went out for a fantastic sushi dinner on Friday night, Jodie mentioned a comment of Kate’s at dinner to Troy. Then the shit hit the fan.

Troy called Kate screaming at her, telling her that she should have a horrible birthday and all kinds of other ridiculous things. Kate immediately put together that this came from Jodie and called me to ask her not to come to her birthday celebration Saturday night. Jodie said that Troy took what she said out of context, and didn’t realize he would make such a big deal out of things. And so began the he said, she said, she said game.

Now, on any other occasion I would have fought for them to resolve it but this was different for two reasons 1) It was Kate’s birthday, and 2) I agree that Jodie should have known better because Troy is a notorious drama queen (yeah, I feel totally justified using that term on guys). From Kate’s perspective, she only tried to be civil and was rewarded with a screaming message for her birthday.

So, I became the perpetual peacekeeper. Kate asked me to make the call so that I could do it diplomatically and she wouldn’t blow up at her. Jodie took things well and agreed that she wouldn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable during their own birthday celebration. And although disappointed, I understood that not every one of my friends is always going to get along. I just pray that neither of them is speaking to Troy by my wedding day, because I can’t deal with fighting bridesmaids!

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