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Do you ever wonder if your dream date may be out of your league? Sure, we all know what we want and don’t want out of a potential mate, but what if our standards are off?

I went and saw Knocked Up tonight, trying to beat the heat with some guaranteed air conditioning, and it got me thinking. What if the reason I’ve been single for so long is that I’m holding out for someone out of reach?

I somehow identify more with the guy in the movie than Katherine Heigl’s character. While I would definitely not call myself the ugly duckling in the room, I also wouldn’t be cast as a leading lady. I’ve always been more of the funny best friend/sister character- not undesirable, but not gracing magazine covers. I’m the one that would be excited that the hottest guy in the room chose to pay attention to me.

On the flip side, I demand a lot out of a guy before considering dating him. I want him to be attractive, successful, intelligent, funny, socially smooth, charismatic, and bring out all of the qualities I want to hone in myself.

I would love it if dating worked like most professional sports drafts. The most wanted player (AKA first round draft pick) doesn’t go to the team that just won the championship. It goes to one of the worst teams in the league, because they need the most help.

What I need is someone who is so good at dating that they make me better at it. Maybe I wouldn’t make it all the way to the finals (I’m not ready for a marriage proposal or anything), but it would be a lot easier to hold up my end of a conversation with a dating MVP than two awkward people struggling to make it work. I’d even settle for a trade later on, and someone else could have my star player, but I’d like to have the experience in order to make me better at playing the game.

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