I always think of going home with such jubilation that I forget that it isn’t necessarily a universal sentiment. I stay at my parent’s house instead of renting a hotel room, even if that means I have occasionally been stuck sleeping on a sofa in the living room. I know that I’ll always be welcomed with open arms, a full fridge, available laundry facilities, and keys to the family car.
My circumstances for this trip are reason to celebrate- a childhood friend is getting married. It’ll be a reunion of sorts with some of my favorite girlfriends, and Ill squeeze in brunch, coffee, and drinks around the ceremony and reception. I’ve scheduled play dates with friends’ children so that I can animate the annual Christmas photos with real life voices and personalities.
But I have other friends who aren’t so lucky. Going home for them means facing family feuds, discrediting rumors that have made their way across the coast to haunt their reputation, and disrupting an already overloaded schedule. Their hearts left long ago, and there are no hats to be hung in their houses.
On this trip a few different worlds will collide. One girlfriend from New York will be attending the wedding, while another one recently moved back home after realizing that the city wasn’t for her. I’ll prepare my answers to explain, “How life in New York is treating me” in under three sentences, but I’ll be aware that I now have an audience that can judge my authenticity.
Going home for me is an escape, a return to a world that I didn’t race away from to never look back. It’s a world that I left reassured would be waiting for me to return with a bundle of balloons and a ticker tape parade. It’s my safe place, and I’m looking forward to a weekend in the center of my universe- especially knowing that New York will still be there reluctantly waiting at the airport for my return.
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3 Comments
have a great time.
Posted Thursday, April 10, 2008 at 4:12 pm | Permalink
GAH. I understand this feeling. SO. INCREDIBLY. MUCH. Have a good trip my dear
Posted Thursday, April 10, 2008 at 6:43 pm | Permalink
Isn’t that the worst — going home and having to deal with the ubiquitous questions like “soooo…New York…do you actually like it?” Um, would I be living there if I didn’t? In my case, being from the South, people thought I was living in sin “up there with those damn Yankees.” Now, I’m just living in sin because I am cohabitating in the nation’s gay capital under the same roof as my boyfriend. Sometimes, you just can’t win. But I get to go home, too, in one week, so I should prepare, as well…
Posted Saturday, April 12, 2008 at 10:06 pm | Permalink
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